People’s acceptance

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Good day, here I am again with another of “our characteristics” one which become a disease destroyed families, young people, careers, and more important than all destroys lives.

People’s acceptance.

Well, it sounds a little bit too … superfluous. I decided to talk about this issue first of all because it´s something that really troubles “us”, and it had become a very important problem in the lives of so many young people over the last years. And my second reason for talking about this is because I overcome this obstacle, luckily without falling in any of the examples I am going to give. One way or another, I really believe all of “us” had to struggle with not being accepted by people, every one of us in different ways. What we have here is a very big “trend” among “us” we should be talking about.
Wanting to be accepted by its own definition is something not right. You don’t make yourself accepted…
Is exactly the other way around… people accept you. If they do, well good for you, you might be lucky and they can actually be trustful, and they really accept you just the way you are, or is very possible they just accept you by convenience, because they need you, or something you have to offer them. In that case, run, run fast and far away from these people, they will make you become something very different than what you really are. Run. Now.

If they don’t accept you…
Well, actually here is when the problem comes. There are so many of “us” that get drawn in to very nasty issues.

First is depression.

Then big frustration, worries, and sleepless nights.

Then the changes in habits like different cloths, fashion, gangs, environment, and lying, cheating, eating disorder just to feel part of something.

Then to the next stage to anorexia, bulimia, obsession with diets, training, sports, gym.

Then the beginning of addictions like alcohol and all kind of drugs, prescription pills or whatever you can imagine extremely harmful for your body, brain, and life in general.

The last step will be the craziest and damaging one, when the self harm begins, really nasty psychological condition, suicidal thoughts, suicidal behavior and finally committing the suicide.
You will be surprised to know how many people actually reach the final level, because they are not accepted, or because they are being bullied, mocked on, or discriminated because of …
their physical appearance…
their religion…
their skin color…
their IQ level…
their knowledge…
their hair color…
their families…
their economic situation…
their language…
their heritage…
their sexuality…
their nationality…
their believes…

I had a revelation today; I understood something that has been bothering me since I was very young. You know, you grow up, become an adult, and you really believe that those stupid jokes made at school when you were a kid are meaningless.

Well, you are wrong, they mean, and a lot. We just have to be extremely brave to accept that it was a big deal then, that you suffered and that it´s still is a big deal and still affects your life even if you want it or not. Be brave, discover what it is, think about how it still affects your daily life, accepted and fix it.

To finish with an example I will say that in this very moment I’m dealing with some extra weight myself. But I am not trying to deal with that because I want to be accepted by anyone, I have learned that lesson a long time ago. In my defense I will say that this extra kilos on me happen because a year ago a quit smoking…yeyyyy for me. And my entire body and metabolism changed completely. So, you can say that the extra weight is actually a good thing. Here I will like to mention that there are a lot of cases where people quit some addiction they had and they are being congratulated for that, even if it mean congratulating the super extra weight they´ve earned too.
I am not that person, I don’t congratulate myself for my extra kilos. What I do and what everybody else should is change that. Not going to an extreme, super diets, miracle pills or whatever other activities that can become another addiction.

I am sick of hearing “you are fatty??? It´s ok, just accept yourself the way you are”.

No, I’m sorry but being a fatty is no something that you have born with, is not something unchangeable, it´s in your hands to drop the burger for some time and make some daily exercise, it´s in your hands not in other people mouths. Remember you have to “accept yourself the way you are” but before you do the acceptance part just look in the mirror with a very realistic eye. Maybe you see you have to lose some weight, but you’re actually very skinny, or maybe you think you should stay the way you are, but actually you are a little bit overweight.
What I am trying to say, don’t listen to TV or internet commercials, magic pills with who knows what inside, “friends” you know, that kind of friends that makes you believe pigs can fly, don’t believe your husband(wife), boy(girl)friend, or partner. Because they just don’t want to hurt your feelings (and they don’t want to risk their lives:-D). Be honest with yourself, be real and realistic.

Don’t abuse with anything, not with the food, but not with the “treatment”, either is diet, pills, drugs, sport or changing religion.

Balance is the KEY.

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